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Blog EntryJan 28, '12 3:58 AM
for everyone
what do you do when you are stuck in a sea of negativity for all your life? how about also being the lowest form of life in this very negative household thereby bearing the brunt of the worst of the negativity like you don't deserve any respect, like your existence is not welcome, like you are always wrong, like a piece of dirt. so whatever you do you must always give in the the rest of the useless household even when you have already tolerated it all your life?

break?

no way am i going to break. no way is my life form going to be trampled on. for all the planning and brute force work that I have to do messing up my sleep and my sanity, and fixing all the mistakes the useless son does on a regular basis (if he is even arsed to work at all), i think i am entitled to the minimum level of courtesy like how they would treat a complete stranger. 

i am moving out this year. it really can't be any faster. i have forced myself to move my desk prematurely out to the new office, thereby forcing myself out of my comfort zone. it is really unpleasant, but it guarantees a major reduction in face time with the useless household mentioned above. and once the new apartment is ready, it guarantees no more contact necessary with them as well. 

let them self implode when i'm gone. they don't deserve my usefulness anymore after 30 years. 

Blog EntryJan 7, '12 9:36 AM
for everyone
in the stomach

hate this feeling

why so many things to wrestle at one time

why does everyone expect me to make their problem mine

how to think about getting married... i just wanna move home and get on with life smoothly.. don't want any hooha.. very tiring to have drama everyday..

so hard to think positive.... but have to suck it in

Blog EntryJan 6, '12 12:29 PM
for everyone
i survived 2011 and i learnt a lot.
in 2012, i will thrive and get a life. there is so much to protect and so much more to fight for.

life is good

Blog EntryDec 15, '11 1:57 AM
for everyone
can't wait for holiday and get the sparkle back in my eyes, everything looks so dull now!

Why does one hate cleaning up other people's unnecessary mess?

Because its like wiping and scrubbing the gross toilet bowl clean.

Worse still sometimes the flush also doesn't work. Flush also no use. Have to somehow patch up the problem then hunt for a plumber to come. If no $ to hire a plumber, then have to learn to plumb it yourself.

You say angry or not after cleaning up the shit.

What if the other person is your responsibility and his ass never wipe clean? So have to wipe for him? He mite as well go eat shit and die.


Blog EntryNov 24, '11 10:26 AM
for everyone
just when I'm beginning to think doing all the extra work like making more friends than enemies in my career, the soup restaurant treat I insisted on giving to some very unrelated people (and relatively un-influential) from 2-3 years ago is bearing some fruit. unripe, but the gestation has begun.

i want to hold myself back, but I can't help it. praise the lord for he is the one who gives.

hard work put in does not always equal results because God is the one who decides whether to give you the results.

i have been cleaning up the mess but nothing in my power can clean every thing up.

I don't deserve all your snide remarks.

you owe me. all of you.

i don't owe you anything. i have been very filial as much as I could but words fail me how unimportant i am to you as your flesh and blood. you only remember me for my usefulness. i am human too. i tell you straight out how i feel, and aren't you ashamed?

i can't wait to leave this place forever and forget this place ever existed.

Blog EntryNov 17, '11 1:53 AM
for everyone
nikita up curiouscaseofbenjaminbutton matchpoint timetravellerswife theotherguys thetourist blackswan SUCKERPUNCH thegirlwholeaptthroughtime equilibirum theblindside 500daysofsummer rapunzel MBS.LIONKING FASTFURIOUS5 XMEN1STCLASS CAPTAINAMERICA COWBOYS&ALIENS CRAZYSTUPIDLOVE COLUMBIANA REALSTEEL INTIME THEIDESOFMARCH CRAZYCHRISTMAS2011 MUPPETSSHOW

Blog EntryNov 14, '11 2:42 PM
for everyone
lai chan cheongsam
poufy white dress
dramatic evening gown
gloves
fascinator
sobek loubs

bicycle
mrt
bus
car with only the wheelbase,steering wheel and seats
aeroplanes
boat
scooter


old historical buildings: parliament, arts house, haji lane, fullerton hotel, raffles hotel, goodwood park, fairways, red dot, tongtong entrance
NO sam museum, NO fort canning, NO botanic garden
in the mood for love

new today buildings: MBS, gardens at the bay, changi airport, NTU, ion, pontiac land water wall


props:
spray gold mini animals
red umbrella
lace umbrella
balloons
calbee chips?
sword?


sisters:
pompom skirt under their floral dress

Blog EntryNov 14, '11 12:15 PM
for everyone
the housing is on track so far.

the wedding plans are progressing sporadically..

now i'm thinking to fix the color theme..
i would love a very saturated/satin turquoise or emerald combined with matte and glossy gold.. art deco style. it should be consistent with all the stationery, decor and attires!

i want a pair of fushcia/fandango colored shoes with my white dress!

next i need to set the evening dress color(s) too...

Blog EntryOct 18, '11 7:19 AM
for everyone
everyday should be small victories day. like today. be happy a little then move on to the next challenge. rawr.

we got the ground floor unit facing the runway!
sign chop guarantee!

electricity & aircon all built in!

Blog EntryOct 16, '11 1:56 PM
for everyone

Blog EntryOct 16, '11 1:43 PM
for everyone
love is good and love is kind right?

look like i'm going to be at the end thinking how opposite the effect of love is, but no I will not go to that place again feeling like I'm at the bottom of the pile from the day i was born, i have my ground to stand firm on now, together with my partner who will always be there for me, not like the idiots who think they own me but were never there for me.

they can have their views but they will never own me again with their convenient love and hypocrisy.

Blog EntrySep 27, '11 11:25 AM
for everyone
it's cathartic to see the boys in the shape and size i was used to seeing a lot.
please don't grow up.
don't ever break apart from each other.
i will always love each one of you.



until the day i see you again.

Blog EntrySep 15, '11 12:59 PM
for everyone
i told him straight that he need to buck up.
gave him the you are your own master talk.
we don't have a father who will teach you what to do with life but he doesn't owe us anything anymore because he gave us a full eduction.
if you don't plan, you plan to fail. if you don't plan your life, someone else will.
the world waits for no one, no one who drags his feet through life. it's cruel but is more evident than ever.

no reaction.

i didn't put him down. this must be one of the first times someone is telling him such things.

it is liberating and tiresome at the same time to have said it all (on bbm) for me. but i did it. a relief but now it's my turn to wait with abated breath till tomorrow. he can slowly scroll up and down to read my lecture tonight and digest properly which is great.

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i'm happy to have new human resource injection into the company. they give and will give a new lease of life and perspective. it has been and will become ever more exciting. they also help to confirm that I have been doing the right thing at the right time. i'm more than happy to know i'm not fudging my way through fighting fires. i'm even happier to say that after delegating work functions and relinquishing certain control (trusting ppl), the humanely balance of work and life has creeped back into my life. i got gel nails done yesterday and a facial today after God knows how long!

Blog EntrySep 4, '11 11:38 AM
for everyone
i remember once pastor chris said dogs are like humans. you can love them and they will love you back. but dogs are different because they can't talk and tell you they love you too.

'wish nellie could tell me she loves me too. she looks like she does... usually (not always =( ) hyper and waggy to see me when i come home, lick me especially after I give her some attention and pats, sit in front of me when she's got my attention to make sure I don't forget to shower her with pats.

wouldn't it be sweet if she could tell me in words that she loves me too? she was waiting for me to come home today and probably to affirm that daddy isn't coming back today to see her. i walked her to her bed and she sat there refusing to lie down until i pat her long enough to make her lie down to sleep.

Blog EntrySep 3, '11 5:17 AM
for everyone
I must have passed by Green Room a zillion times and seeing people drive into Bishan Park just to go there for lunch in their nice office attires, unlike the rest of us usually drabby folk wearing our sweats or tights. I can get a discount for frequenting their neighbour, but the thought never tempted me enough.

Shaun dropped in after my class today causing my lunch at home to become cold, hmpf.. but it was so worth it. We went to try Green Room for the first time. Eggs benedict for him; omelette for me.. i haven't had such good egg-y breakfast food for a long time. it felt like food cooked from the heart. service was also great. I could get used to visiting Green Room more often, like every other Saturday. I could even bring Nellie because it's a pet friendly place... but then.. the question of whether we have worked hard enough to gain such regular enjoyment still stands in the way.

hmmm.... work harder then can enzoi lor.....

Blog EntrySep 1, '11 2:21 AM
for everyone
nellie nellie shook my hand yesterday
she came to me as i was opening up a packet of wang wang and gave me her paw
didn't know what it meant until i tried telling her to shake hand and she responded immediately again with her paw

she knew how to shake hand from long ago!
i feel so proud of her!

so cuuuuute



Blog EntryAug 4, '11 12:18 PM
for everyone

Family over money or money over family?

Family business
Family businesses are the ones that are owned and managed by one or more of the family members. These members have a significant ownership and majority of the control lies with them. Family businesses exist all over the world and some of them have been around for decades still maintaining the initial vigour and dedication.

Some of the oldest business firms are family-owned. For example, Kongo Gumi of Japan is currently managed by the 30th generation and in the contemporary times Wal-Mart of US is a fine example. These businesses are value-based.

To successfully manage a family business requires lot of competencies and commitment. Some of the skills required can be conflict resolution, managing finance, managing legal issues and so on. It’s not that every member of the family participates in the business and there is a certain hierarchy that is followed.

The challenges that these businesses face depend upon the size of the company and the extent of their operations (domestic or international).Though most of these businesses have family members managing the helm of affairs, with changing times, even non-family members are roped in to manage some aspects of the business. Moreover, the participation of women in family businesses has increased and in the past few years, women-led businesses have grown.

It is obvious for any family business to have difference of opinions among members but though there might be minor differences, the family and business are united. Such businesses have been extremely successful. Examples are Godrej Group and Tatas (India). But instances of business empires fragmenting are also many. A classic example is that of Reliance Group of companies founded by Dhirubhai Ambani (India).

Historically, many successful family businesses have broken up by second or third generation. It is said that the first generation establishes the business. Second generation grows it; whereas, in most cases, third generation dissolves it. Decisions made in the boardroom could change overnight on the dinner table at home.

Family business can be defined in many ways. Let us refer only to those businesses lasting over two or more generations and have existed for more than ten years.

· Family business account for more than 80% in the world
· Fortune 500 companies include 37% family businesses
· More than 60% GDP is contributed by family business in the world
· Family business create 90% employment (manufacturing) in India
· BSE 500 (Bombay Stock Exchange Index) includes 346 family businesses out of total 500 companies (69%)
· In other words, 54% of market capitalization is from this category
· Research statistics show that only 30% family businesses go further to next generation. This means 70% family businesses close after the founder generation, or divides if not sold off.
· Hardly three to four percent reach third generation
· However, there are examples of businesses running up to around 20 generations in Italy and Spain

What causes the split?
1] Banks, Financial institutions, or Private equity firms are now providing the capital finance. As a result, the business persons do not have to depend only on financing from the family.

2] Role models for new generations have changed. Head of families are no more remaining only role models. As a result, they split.

3] Sometimes collective thinking is missing.

4] Sometimes the main business director (usually, head of the family) cannot remain transparent in maintain balance between contribution (from the members) and compensation payable.

5] Appointing a successor can also become the cause for the split.

6] Unclear or incomplete communication can also create conflicts.

7] Many a times, a dispute starts from spouses, e.g. when elder brother travels in economy class on a business trips; whereas, the younger one always goes by first class. Thus, influence of spouses can disturb the setup.

8] Another example is a well educated girl marrying in a business family, and starting show off or being proud of her education. Slowly the other members of the family start keeping distance from her. This resulted in a split in brothers and joint family business was to be separated.

9] Not agreeing on particular business strategy also can be reason for the split.

10] There are cases where after the split, separate businesses are incurring losses, and intend to join again; however, heads of families do not agree.

11] Many times, difference in values or business ethics can create disputes. For example, one of the members want to act aggressively, whereas, another one wants to continue in traditional way.

12] Sometimes, dispute arises in allocation of resources. One member wants certain people on her/his side. Or, another member is asking for more facilities.

13] When the founder member (usually, Head of the family) is alive, many differences do not surface. The Head of the family knows how to resolve and acts as a bonding factor. However, when the Head departs, the next eldest member takes the reins. Initially, there could be silent opposition against her/him from other members, and slowly it surfaces as disputes.

14] There are cases of family businesses, where members keep silence, or have only formal talk, and there are no frank or open discussions to resolve the issues. Slowly these lead to split up.

15] In India, during 1950 to 2005, around 32 big businesses have broken up.

What’s the solution?
When there are disputes in family business, the owners like to bring in relations or close friends as mediators. They hesitate to consult the experts for fear of losing confidentiality. Such mediators can make temporary solutions; they are not able to make structural improvement. Also, majority of them cannot remain objective.

If family business can adopt the Partnership structure, disputes can be reduced.
There can be an advisory council consisting of well-wishers, relatives, an external coach, and the one who can influence the family members. The council members should meet every quarter, and resolve disputes in time.

When values and beliefs are strong in the family, and new generation feels secured, the family businesses are not split up soon.

The external coach can assist to prepare policies for managing the family business, and implement procedures and systems, including decision-making process.

There should be either a Trust or a written constitution for managing family business.
Established brands can save family business. Even in disputes, the members do not want to disturb it due to fear of loss of brand value. They remain together even unwillingly, or try to resolve the issues.

Many family businesses follow the consultants’ advice and spend time together (with family members) on a resort or away from workplace. This practice helps for bonding.

In USA, more than 200 educational institutions include management of family business in their curriculum.
There are 15 to 17 Ph.D. in Finland on this subject.

One can adopt a western model. They form a Managing Trust for managing the group businesses. Trust cannot be dissolved easily; and therefore, the businesses go on for long. Head of family seems to be the overall head and decision maker, yet the owner is the Trust. Family members are the Trustees.

There can be downside of Managing Trust. Like it or not, all family members have to become Trustees. Since the Trust will make all the decisions, many members will stop taking active interest in the business. There is a risk of beaurocracy when the Trust cannot make decisions fast.

There is another example of Holding company formation for managing family business. Here, the family members are shareholders of the individual companies in the group. However, they have to follow the holding companies directives. For example, a member cannot sell her/his shares and loose the control over the company.

Few examples of large family businesses
Kongō Gumi Co., Ltd. (株式会社金剛組, Kabushiki Gaisha Kongō Gumi) is a Japanese construction company and was the world's oldest continuously ongoing independent company, operating for over 1,400 years until it was absorbed as a subsidiary of another larger construction company. Headquartered in Osaka, the once family-owned construction company traced its origins to 578 when one of the engineers whom Prince Shōtoku brought from Baekje to Japan to build the Buddhist temple Shitennō-ji decided to start his own business. Over the centuries, Kongō Gumi participated in the construction of many famous buildings, including the 16th century Osaka Castle.
A 10-foot 17th-century scroll traces the 40 generations back to the company's start. As with many distinguished Japanese families, sons-in-law often joined the clan and took the Kongō family name. Thus, through the years, the line has continued through either a son or a daughter.

The company fell on hard times and went into liquidation in January 2006. Its assets were purchased by Takamatsu Corporation. Before its liquidation, it had over 100 employees and annual revenue of ¥7.5 billion ($70 million) in 2005; it still specialized in building Buddhist temples. The last president was Masakazu Kongō, the 40th Kongō to lead the firm. As of December 2006, Kongō Gumi continues to operate as a wholly owned subsidiary of Takamatsu.

Matsushita Electric (1918) is another model in Japan for running large business (Panasonic and National brands) with a centralized holding structure and strategy decision. Though centralized as a group, individual group companies have profit responsibilities.

Cargill, an international producer and marketer of food, agricultural, financial and industrial products and services is a good example of family business running for long time. Founded in 1865, privately held company employs 131,000 people in 66 countries.

There are also examples of holding company structure where the holding company is not a shareholder. It is structured only for management of group companies. Again, this management is only strategic. Individual companies are responsible for operations and profits.

There is a trend of bringing in professionals for running group companies. The Holding company manages the business strategy and directions. Individual companies are managed by professionals who have profit responsibilities. Unlike typical family businesses, freedom of operations is granted to these professionals including manpower, materials, or machineries. Additional finance requirement is to be approved by the Holding company. 

Suresh Shah, Managing Director, Pathfinders Enterprise

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Blog EntryAug 3, '11 3:38 AM
for everyone
finding my 2 feet to stand firmly on the ground

will not be afraid of failure again

will not feel defeated ever again